Hi Munchbox, All,
Reading this thread some time ago triggered off some research about tying. After finding some articles and an old post in another forum, a quick email - got me connected to people who had ‘gone before’ and could provide some objective advice.
The saga begins many years ago when I was 18, having sex with my girlfriend and my Fren tore. Ouch, much blood, and sore for days.
Around 20 years later - yes I am getting on a little - I got myself a Prince Albert piercing. Got it stretched to a 3mm within the first two years. Still very happy with it.
Remained frustrated by the remaining part of the frenulum over the years but never had any other tearing problems, just the occasional soreness when having been a little 'enthusiastic' with my wife - or my hand.
If you Google "Fremulum Tying" you will find some details. In simple terms you use a needle to pass thread - or a suture- through the frenulum and then tie it off tight. This stops the blood flow through that small area and the skin dies off. Shortly after the dead skin separates, and the frenulum link is broken.
A useful article was found at
http://www.voy.com/190293/23.html
A Yahoo group called Frenulumtying was similarly helpful, and is currently active.
Hence, having consulted the repository of advice I decided to try the tying method and made a tie whilst working away from home for the week about a month ago.
Given that others had needed several ties to achieve the desired outcome, the result of my first tie was not perfect, but a significant step forward.
I used no anaesthetic cream (Emla was recommended) but used a surgical needle with suture attached to place thread. Just a drop of blood. Far less painful than stretching the PA, plus a little ‘twinge’ when tying the surgeons knot. Once tied off, covered with 'Sudocrem' antiseptic cream.
Little if any pain or discomfort from then on apart from when washing the area, or soaking in warm water to stretch each day.
After 2 days the tie became loose, and could be rotated by pulling the ends of the suture. This seemed to actually cut the skin - in a sawing motion – and opened a small cut which looked more like a paper cut than a gash. Suspected, and later realised that I should have tied the tie tighter.
By day 4 the thread was very loose - but note that the knot had not slackened and I removed the tie as no further progress was being made. The location of the tie has remained reduced like when the tie was in place.
Pictures of progress so far are provided. The first two show how the Fren pulls, and the thrid gives an impression of the tie.
Regards, Grumpy.